Living in a household of 3 men and 2 women, it’s easy to overlook the violent FPS video games, fear of “women’s health issues,” and occasional objectifying talk. But there’s a reason I lock my door at night, and why I get pissed off when I get called a carpetmuncher, and why I run home sometimes instead of walking. It’s because our society has not moved past a point where men rape.
In a study of high school males, 50% of those interviewed believed it acceptable “for a guy to hold a girl down and force her to have sexual intercourse in instances such as when ‘she gets him sexually excited’ or ‘she says she’s going to have sex with him and then changes her mind'” (Goodchilds and Zellman, 1984).
Gloria Steinem once noted that it was ironic that Schlafly, as a lawyer, newsletter editor, and anti-feminist crusader, has spent her career fighting to deny women the opportunities for political activism that she herself enjoys.
Phyllis Schlafly has spoken many times about how marital rape, a common situation wherein a woman* will not consent to sex with her husband, but he will proceed to take sexual action with her, is just an outlet for whiny wives to facilitate divorce. She is perpetuating the system of physical domination that begins when women are first told that they should strive to please others. Especially during this recession, where domestic violence rates are exploding due to unemployment.
Phyllis Schlafly in an interview with Student Life at Washington University of St. Louis:
I think that when you get married you have consented to sex. That’s what marriage is all about, I don’t know if maybe these girls missed sex ed[…] When it gets down to calling it rape though, it isn’t rape, it’s a he said-she said where it’s just too easy to lie about it.
Definition of rape: She said no. He said yes.
What: Phyllis Schlafly’s Lecture at Berkeley
When: Tuesday, February 24, 2009, 7:30pm – 9:00pm
Where: 110 Barrows
*I use gender-specific pronouns here because rates of queer spousal abuse have yet to be established, and the rate of heterosexual spousal abuse still disproportionately affects women. My research sources use heteronormative examples.